Posts Tagged ‘sexism’

If you’ve read my post yesterday you’d have saw I was having some trouble with a misogynist on youtube who was calling all women sluts. Nice… I know. Anyway, I thought the argument was done and dusted, but it seems he can’t seem to leave it. And he eventually took things too far…

After bringing up Liverpool, my home city, he went on to say how much of a dump it is, how I’m clearly poor and how I should read the sun. I told him to not tell Scousers to read the sun for obvious reasons, and he replied:

oh the hillsborough a disgrace event? How about the munich air disaster? Im sure everyone deserved to die on that day too. Karma is a bitch, you throw some, you get some.

Children died that day. What a horrible human being. Its hard to be a good person when there is such hateful people like him in the world. Needless to say, I blocked him.

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‘Rather be mental’ has turned into a feminist rant page the last couple of days. Its not exactly what I intended, yet here we go again…

As you probably already know, Ryan Giggs has been exposed as the footballer behind the Imogen Thomas/The Sun (Don’t get me started on them…) injunction scandal. I personally knew it was him weeks ago, after a Spanish sport website published his name – the wonders of google chrome translator hey?. So I was innocently browsing youtube, when I came across an ITN video reporting the case. Now I’ve always been someone who likes to have my say (you can probably tell that by my blog) so as usual I was writing my take on the case in the comments section and looking at others. What did I find? Well the long and short of it is – people hate Imogen (unsurprisingly) and some individuals still have a very narrow backwards view of women. One of these individuals however, took things too far, and I could help but stand up for my sex. Heres how it went –

Original misogynistic post: this world is full of sluts. I dont blame giggs, I blame the slut. It saddens me to see the world that we live at the moment and see so many fucking sluts that is just out there to break people’s marriages. Hope karma will bite them back in the ass

Me: It saddens me that small minded sexist people like you exist. I pity you.

Misogynist: (this person can’t seem to speak properly)

is not sexist is the truth. So is fine and go and hitting to married man? Man, I feel outmost pity to whoever you are going out with.

Women are complaining that men are dishonest and what the term ‘player’ where breaking other girls heart but the real crook in the very beginning that destroy that guys heart was from a women. Great and legendary men like alexander the great, hitler and so on destroyed by women.

I just hope this bitch get her karma back. What goes around comes around

Me: Your response is LAUGHABLE. First off, it is sexist to call a woman a slut, and not lay any blame or responsibility at all on the man. Slut is a hateful derogatory sexist term. Imogen didn’t know Gigg’s wife, she didn’t know his kids. Whereas he was supposed to care and love them, instead he was calculating an affair for months with another woman. He must have lied to them a hundred times. 

And what on earth are you on about that women are crooks who destroy mens hearts?! A generalisation like that IS sexist for a start. So no man is responsible for his actions? And lets look at the three examples you give – Alexander the Great was the worlds most famous homosexual, and no woman destroyed him. And HITLER?! He was a sociopath who murdered millions of people. How on earth are you blaming that on a woman?!

What is wrong with you?! Have you ever met a woman?!

Misogynist:  your knowledge of history astonishing me greatly. Please do your own research before posting as really it just made you look like an ignorant human being. I wont comment on any of those matter cause clearly will be no point with someone whom lack common knowledge. I could tell the moment “alexander was homo”.

Yeah most women are sluts. They seek other people marriages and gaining something out of it to their own benefit. So what do you called that? Perfect women? GIrl of my dreams? 

And yeah ive met tons of women, and most women really are just interested in my wealth rather than anything. The moment they saw a maserati parking by, their legs just open widely and keep on hitting me without doing anything.

Its a sad world we live in. Great women getting rarer these days. Is fine going after peoples marriages and breaking them apart, is fine to cheat with other men. Sigh, this even strengthen my opinion regards the community we live in the moment. A trully sad day.

Me: You called Hitler a great man, and I’m the one that’s ignorant? Again, laughable. What I said wasn’t even wrong actually, Alexander is widely thought to have been sleeping with Hephaestion, his closest friend and advisor for years. And you haven’t said what supposed woman destroyed him? ‘Most women are sluts’? I am amazed that backwards, small minded people like you still exist. I’d rather gauge my eyes out than come near you and your maserati so you really are deluding yourselfAnd I can’t imagine any woman who would?! The only truly sad day is the day I started this pointless conversation with you. I’m not gonna get anywhere. Do yourself a favour, stop generalising. Especially about women. I’m a women. I’m not a so called ‘slut’. And I don’t know anyone who is. I dread to think of the way you treat your own mother with those views.

Misogynist: Again, I wouldnt comment in regards hitler cause please do your research beforehand. Hopefully you are from what I called uneducated group cause if you did, is really a sad day in a UK educations system. I knew they were some ignorant people but yet common basics knowledge in regards of history as claiming to know everything and yet truth to be told knows nothing. Im probably thinking that youre one of that assumes UK is in great shape financially and Japan is a rich country as well. and thats the funny part isnt it? I didnt say ALL, ive said most girls are slut. Ryan giggs wiffe is a lady whom I have outmost respect and yet you think imogen wasnt a slut.. I really wonder what do you called those type of girls if she wasnt a slut? Perfect catch? one in a million? Giggs is lucky to have her? Man, I dont even know if you knew the correction of slut. Btw my mum wasnt trying to destroy other peoples marriages and opening her legs to anyone easily. I dont know whether you are one or you are not, I couldnt care less really. If youre not, great more girls should be like you but the fact they are not and they will always be more easy girls whether you are included or not. Is just a sad world we live in having sluts trying to destroy other peoples marriages.

Me: Not that its your business, but I am educated. Clearly, you are not. Ask the 18 million Jews in the world if they think Hitler was ‘great’. He murdered people – 11 million people, probably more. I don’t know what your definition of great is, but its seriously perverse. Saying most is still extremely insulting to women! I didn’t say Imogen was not in the wrong, I said Giggs is equally to blame. And that it was wrong to blame all this on Imogen. At the end of the day, he was the one lying to his family day in day out, not her. Your not exactly being kind to men here either. By your definition, men can’t help themselves. Your making them sound like if a woman comes on to them, they have to act on it. That’s not true at all! Giggs didn’t have to have an affair with her. If he truly cared about his family more than he cared about himself he wouldn’t have slept with her.

Misogynist: This is exactly why I wouldnt want a daugther. If she was mine, Ive would died of embarrasement of regards my family name and reputation. I just hope that your do get a child and she turned out this way and comes back telling me that she isnt a slut, its just those guy keep fucking her day and night and those men who called her slut and easy is sexist. Here you are accusing me of being sexist where Imogen was at fault and trying to act as though she was innocent and the was the victim and not all fucking whore where cleary she is whom hitting on giggs in the first place and here you are defending her. Felt insulted? Too bad thats the truth. They are tons of these women around lying and waiting to gain for her own benefit and truth to be told I just hope she and most will rot in hell.

Me: I AM NOT DEFENDING HER! You either can’t read or you’re stupid. Like I’ve just said, I’m not saying Imogen isn’t in the wrong. She was. But so is Giggs! It takes two! The fact that he got the injunction in the first place shows he knew how wrong he was, as he knew if this got out his reputation would be in tatters. My issue with you is that you think all or most women are sluts. As a women that is insulting. And it is NOT the truth. It isn’t even fact. It’s your twisted opinion.You must be watching too much pornography, because that is not a real world realistic view of women. I’ve been in a relationship for 2 and a half yrs. I love my boyfriend. And I intend to marry him. In fact, all the women I know are the same or similar. I don’t know anyone who has lots of different men. And it saddens me that you think that women are like that. Either you’ve got misogynistic problems or your really hanging out with the wrong crowd. 

Misogynist: Maybe you live in a different city or what I wouldnt know but here I am in city of london working with morgan stanley and everytime if I park my car in the city a girl would just come by and trying hoping to score. Again the issue was I called imogen a slut and here I am being sexist. Truth is there are many and plenty of women whom are trying to destroy and if that wasnt the case, this would be the very first wouldnt it? If she wasnt a slut, then what is she? Answer the question. if you arent thats great, im hoping all girls turns out like you. The fact it would not. They are more girls who will be like Imogen than you and is a sad world that we live in. If you dont called imogen and other girls whom trying to score even without knowing me at all a slutI wouldnt know who would .The fact that I didn take advantage cause im respecting them even though they are not respecting themselves cause all they see ooo rich guy driving maserati and time to exploit my beauty.

Me: Clearly you work so hard over there at morgan stanley as you can have an argument with me at 20 to 2 in the afternoon. I couldn’t give a shit what you do, or you bloody car. You said (and I quote), “Yeah most women are sluts.” – that is the issue I have with you. I’m from liverpool, but I’ve been to London and I’m moving there full time next month. This fantastical image you have in your head about women is not true. Maybe your parking your car in the red light district? Silly man. Will you stop going on about the bloody car?! No ones impressed! How could you ever sleep with a woman – your too obsessed with that thing. I would never use the word slut to refer to anyone. I would call someone promiscuous – but I would never exclusively call a woman that, as men can be promiscuous too. ‘Time to exploit my beauty’? Seriously, how does your neck manage to support that huge head of yours

Misogynist: Btw none of your business but im overseas in china to be exact and there is a thing called time difference. Silly educated girl whom to knows about everything and yet couldnt tell a time difference. All I pray for you is the best and you do get married and get a daugther and she turns out to be exactly like Imogen and yeah do come back telling me she isnt a slut and and others are sexist for calling her a slut where guys fucking her day and night and proud to call her your kid.

Me: Er hello? Moron? You just told me you were in LONDON!!! Haha and I’m a silly little girl who doesn’t know about time difference. You don’t currently know what country your sitting in!

And that was the end of it. No response back after that. Not my finest moment I must say, my mum always taught me to rise above and walk away. But it so infuriates me when someone generalises, about anything, but especially women. And this guy wasn’t only sexist, he was racist. “Hitler was a great man.” – Is he for real? I hate that there are people in the world who are like this. I hate that they genuinely feel their is nothing wrong with the way they see the world, or women, or people of a different skin colour. I just don’t get it. I was raised to respect people, no matter who they are. But how can I respect someone who talks filth like this. It sickens me. I truly hope people like him are in their minority because all they spout is poison. He’s apparently praying for me to have a ‘slutty’ child, I pray that his children don’t have the same hatred in their heart.

NB. All the bad spelling – all him. If he’s going to call me uneducated, you’d think he’d at least try and speak in proper sentences. 

Excuse me a minute… while I rant.

Now you might be forgiven if you’ve checked out my last post, that I am some sort of feminist. I’m not really. I feel the same amount of distaste and disgust at any form of sexism as your average female. But that doesn’t mean to say that out and out sexism, especially the mean, backwards and disgusting kind that women so often come across, doesn’t wholly offend me. And it happens occasionally that you stumble upon instances that really get under your skin. And for me that is often casual sexism.  For instance, I’ve been settling down to my last day of the season, looking for places online to listen to the game. When I came across this. “For men who love to talk sport.” Why? Why did they have to make such a point as to exclude half the worlds bloody population? I love sport. I am a massive Evertonian, and I love watching athletics. And from time to time I follow Rugby League.

But what should I expect really. I clicked on the link, and across the top of the page it had in big letters, “On now; Stan Collymore.” What can I expect from a organisation that employs a known woman beater. Not to mention their notorious recent contract with lovely and utterly disgustingly vile sexist pigs Andy Gray and Richard Keys.

I honestly pity any woman that works for talkSPORT. Get out while you can ‘love’.

This sort of casual sexism is common however. And it does go both ways. Sheila’s Wheels is an insurance company solely for women. Which shouldn’t be allowed. I contest to anything that excludes people solely on their gender. And the same goes for race. The long and short of it is I don’t like being told what I can and can’t do. The Yorkie ad campaign was a real annoyance of mine. And I swore I’d never buy a yorkie again. And I haven’t. “Its not for girls.” Well fine, I won’t spend any of my fucking money on it then. Good luck selling a chocolate bar – when you’ve excluded the sex who are the biggest buyers of chocolate. Women love chocolate. How is excluding them going to sell your shitty product?! Snickers have recently done a similar campaign with an A-Team theme. Mr T rides in on a big tank to any man who isn’t ‘being a man’, he then chucks snickers at them and tells them to ‘Get some nuts.’ While I enjoy the clever play on words, and I wouldn’t say this campaign is sexist (unlike Yorkies) it still is marginalising a huge chunk of the market.

*Sigh* I guess casual sexism, and racism will be around for a long time to come.

Criminal Minds. A small little show (at least this side of the pond) about a special team of FBI agents who catch serial killers by profiling them.

NB. Profiling: noun; recording a person’s behaviour and analysing psychological characteristics in order to predict or assess their ability in a certain sphere or to identify a particular group of people.

See reading my blog can be nonsensical educational from time to time.

So where am I going with this? I’m not afraid to admit, I have watched (and sometimes rewatched) every single Criminal minds episode. And I love it. I love how dark it can be, I love that after nearly seven season’s I can still be surprised. That being said, none of the fire setting, necrophilia loving and human doll making UnSub’s surprised me more than the downright bold move made by the production team when they fired – yes you heard me right FIRED long standing cast member AJ Cook, and cut short the screen time of actress Paget Brewster – both of whom were the backbone of the show and two of my personal favourites. 

Why? Well according to the shows producers, cut backs had to be made to save money. I guess it turns out the recession even hit show business. Forgive me if I’m being a pessimist here, but why did they decide that it was a good idea to more than halve the number of female cast members? Why did they think that it was okay to cut a character who has been in the show since almost the very first ep? And why did they think if was okay to do this and then introduce a new [very similar character in every way] just days after losing one of their primary cast members. If it was about saving money, save it – don’t then turn round and say oh no we’re a character short, we need a new female agent – just don’t get RID of the first character in the first place!

Phew – rant over. This was a move obviously greatly opposed by pretty much the entire population of fans, let alone female fans. I can’t help think that there was some level of sexism involved. Paget, despite not being fired and just having her episodes cut, decided to do the honourable thing and quit on her own accord. Given they had already pretty much told her how worthless her role was in their eyes – you can hardly blame her. It may be just me, but I always thought that when cutbacks are made on shows, the last in is the first out. The last in was SSA David Rossi, played by Joe Mantegna. Don’t get me wrong, I like his character and I always get a kick out of hearing Fat Tony off the Simpson’s solving crimes. But in a business sense, he would be the logical choice to go – not fan favourite AJ Cook. And the fact that two women were picked to lighten the load cash wise, just seems wrong to me. The way that the writers wrote off AJ’s character JJ showed they agreed with the fact it was an odd move, showing an episode filled with, “You can’t go, were a family and we don’t work without you” and “Why would they do this to us…!” Yadda yadda. 

So why am I talking about this now? AJ Cook came back for Paget’s final episode which aired last night in the US. I kind of loved the metaphorical meaning behind the end of that episode. The two of them sitting together in a cafe in France, like that’s were they were looking for work since they got canned. It seemed fitting that it was JJ who knew Prentis wasn’t dead. And I can’t help thinking that if the next season of Criminal Minds bombs they’ll be begging Paget Brewster to come back – and she’ll be laughing all the way to the bank as I hear she’s taking her pride of place back in comedy. Let’s be honest, I love Criminal Minds. But I can’t help thinking Paget was almost doing them a favour by being there. Like she was just too good for it. Criminal Minds was holding her back, and it is in comedy that she’s at her best. As for AJ Cook, she belongs in either her own show – something that mixes sassyness with drama – or back in movies (Final Destination 2 was highly underrated!).

Whatever ends up happening, needless to say I am not worried about either actress. I can’t say the same thing about the next season of the show though. I hope it doesn’t bomb, because Lord knows it still has a great cast. But it’s likely it will be a shadow of it’s former self with too many vital cast members falling by the way side.  

NB. It always annoyed me that the male cast were so often at the front of the group in group pictures. Foreshadowing perhaps?!